100

This week, I’m turning 100. Kidding, but seriously, I can’t believe I’m writing this particular post. I’ve now posted 100 times on abredder91.wordpress.com, and it’s kind of amazing. The first few entries were from my time spent in Sri Lanka and New York, but after that, it’s all been about the conversations we need to […]

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First Date

It’s important not to get ahead of yourself. It’s been over a year since my last date, and I can’t say I’ve missed dating all that much. I’ve often found the experience to be more anxiety-inducing than anything else, and so it’s been easier to avoid it in the name of mental health. I know […]

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First Date

It’s important not to get ahead of yourself. It’s been over a year since my last date, and I can’t say I’ve missed dating all that much. I’ve often found the experience to be more anxiety-inducing than anything else, and so it’s been easier to avoid it in the name of mental health. I know […]

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2018

And sometimes, you get so much more than you ever thought possible. I knew that at some point, I’d have to sit down and write about 2018. It’s a way to get everything out, to think back on the year that was, collect myself, and then move on. In many ways, a year is a […]

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The Sting

I said it out loud, but I’d known the truth for some time. I remember sitting on the porch with my stepmother, something I wrote about in an earlier post. I told her that while I’d achieved my fitness goals, that I wasn’t any happier. I’d attained the body I thought I wanted, but it […]

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Soul Speak

It’s one thing to have the conversation. It’s another thing to know what to say. It was raining, and there I was, standing at the corner of a busy intersection. I’d left my umbrella at the office, the way I used to leave cheap umbrellas in bars all over New York City. It wasn’t exactly […]

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Ambivalent

We don’t always know what we want. Sometimes, you need a break from the world of dating. It’s a world that asks so much of you. It requires energy, patience, and vulnerability. There’s also frustration in abundance. There are bad dates, awkward conversations, the list goes on. At a certain point, after a few weird […]

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